Anaïs and Pascal, in a relationship for 14 years: “We made love at least four times a day”

Anaïs met Pascal when she was 25. He was then 36. Fourteen years later, the couple still spins the perfect love. But if their age difference has never been a problem in terms of their personalities, their desires and their tastes, sexually it begins to take up space.

“I always wanted him”

Anaïs has always loved nature and long hikes. A passion that she shares with Pascal and which played an important role when they met: “I have often had trouble finding a partner who is enthusiastic about going to spend a week in the countryside just to walk, take pictures or enjoy the scenery. When Pascal told me about the hikes he had already done, I was immediately won over. “Pascal admits not having thought about their age difference at the start of their relationship: “I had a few friends who told me that I was lucky but I never understood why. For me, Anaïs is a woman, not a nymphet. And what I like about her is our current commonalities, not the fact that she reminds me of my youth. I never felt like I was in a relationship with a kid. »

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The beginnings of their story are passionate: “I always wanted him and it was mutual. We made love everywhere, all the time, even ten minutes. The goal was not always quality but above all to feel the body of the other. There was a sense of urgency. I think because we were relieved to have met after our share of bad stories. Pascal shares this analysis: “When I met Anaïs, I was relieved. I began to tell myself that I was not made to be in a relationship, that I would never find anyone who suited me. With her, everything was simple and very fast. I can say, without lying, that we made love at least four times a day in the beginning. As soon as we could have fun, we did. And then it quieted down around the first anniversary of our story. »

“I sometimes have breakdowns during sex”

Things have indeed changed a lot: “We are slower in our approach. I want to take advantage of him when he’s at his peak and he thinks the same way. No question of jumping on each other without being sure to have time in front of us and to be totally available for sex, physically and psychologically. We have to make love once every two weeks or so. Pascal specifies: “My age and my physical form became elements that had to be taken into account. I no longer have a hard-on like I was at 20, even though I still want her as much. I sometimes have blackouts during sex if I’m too tired or even not hard at all in the worst stressful times. I haven’t been to see a doctor for it because I know that’s life and we don’t really suffer from it. We do qualitative rather than quantitative sex and that suits us very well. »

Pascal however has regrets: “Of course I would like to have the capacities of a sexuality of twenty years. At the time, I didn’t even enjoy it that much. Sometimes I get depressed and tell myself that I would have liked to meet Anaïs earlier in my life and then I realize that she would also have been younger and that it certainly wouldn’t have stuck. We met when we had to meet. Anaïs is aware of this development in their story: “We never acted as if the age difference between us did not exist. It’s normal that there are consequences. We both know that I will see him grow old before he sees me grow old, that he will certainly have health problems before me. Our desire has not evolved, it is our bodies that change. It’s part of love too, growing old together, and that’s fine with me. »

“My next ten sexual years, I want them with her”

Despite the signs of aging that are beginning to be felt, Anaïs is happy in her relationship and satisfied with her sex life with Pascal: “Of course I am fulfilled! I’m in a relationship with a man I love and who makes me come like no other. We have a good life together. And I like what we built. I love that man, with that age and that life experience. I never thought I would be happier with a man my age. I’m happy with him. Pascal says he is also fulfilled: “When I’m frustrated it’s against me, against my body which doesn’t follow my mind. But I also know that it will get worse over the years. I also know that I have in front of me a magnificent woman and whom I love and desire like crazy. I know how lucky I am to have her in my life. So I am fulfilled. Because even when I have a breakdown, I can still give him pleasure. And that makes me the happiest of men. »

For their next ten years, and the following, Anaïs admits to having started to do research: “I know that sometimes he would like to have a hard-on as hard as he wants me but that his body does not follow. Me, I want a sex life that satisfies us both until the end. So I started reading about non-penetrative sex, looking at sex toys. There are tons of ways to have fun together and I think we’re going to look at exploring all of that. Pascal is just as positive: “I like that we spend hours giving each other pleasure with our mouths, massaging each other. I like to penetrate her with my fingers, with toys. We’re not bored. My next ten sexual years, I want them with her, to continue exploring together. We constantly discover new things, and we haven’t lost anything, on the contrary. The bond is stronger than ever. »

The best sexual memory of Anaïs with Pascal:

“Before him, I had only known very selfish guys in bed, so the first time he took the time to do a long cunnilingus until orgasm, I was amazed. I remember that at first I felt guilty for not coming quickly but he reassured me and I focused on the sensations. It was perfect and it has remained so. »

Pascal’s best sexual memory with Anaïs:

“At the beginning of our relationship, it was frenzy. We made love all the time and especially anytime. It didn’t take more than a few seconds for me to get hard. We jumped on each other 20 minutes before friends came over for dinner. When they rang the doorbell, I was out of breath but so happy, like a kid. »

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